The following list will help you identify the signs and behaviors of a blamer:

1. Pessimism. Pessimism is one of the sure signs of a blamer. No matter how positive you are, they will always find something bad to happen. There’s often no talking them out of their negative thinking.

2. Making excuses. Blamers are always making excuses for their own actions. They are very good at this. They will rarely take responsibility for their behavior.

3. Passing the blame. Blamers will tend to always pass the blame on to someone else, while never taking responsibility for their actions.

4. Quick temperament. Being quick-tempered can be another sign to watch for. Blamers are known to have short fuses.

5. Takes credit. A blamer always insists on credit for being right. Oh, how they love to shout, “I told you so!”

6. Betrayal. Being trustworthy is not part of a blamer’s character. They are typically back-stabbers. So, be very careful. If you don’t want something you say to be repeated, then don’t say it.

7. Envy. Envy is the blamer’s middle name. Any time you get something nice, they become angry and envious. This includes any success you might have. When you’re sick or in pain, believe me — they’re happy. They may not realize this and in fact, will deny it. Then, when you feel great and positive again, they may immediately remind you that “soon, bad things will happen, so don’t get too comfortable.”

Beware of people who automatically assume the fault is yours. After all, it could never be their fault. By the way, these people also love to play mind games. They rehearse their entire dialogue so they will be prepared for your next conversation. It’s a full-time job for them.